I have heard this word in regard to my infertile status quite a few times.
The most common question that leads to this:
"Do twins run in your family?" - Nope, I did IVF. Although hubby's grandma did inform us that there are several sets of boy/girl twins in his lineage. FAR up in the lineage, but still.
But my favorite conversations that lead to this are with medical professionals. Here is my conversation with the L&D nurse that started my bedrest:
"Twins, wow! Do they run in your family or did you use Clomid?"
"Well, I did use Clomid but it didn't work, so our twins are a product of IVF."
She flips through my chart she just made . . .
"Really? You're so young for that!" - Yes, I know.
My conversation with the nurse at the specialist:
"This is an IVF pregnancy I see. Oh, you're 26. IVF at 26, really?"
"It actually occurred when I was 25." - For some reason that ended the conversation. :)
I am by no means a patient individual. I didn't make it the full year of ttc before I demanded the doctor figure out what was going on. I jumped on the drug induced fertility express at 24 years old. I do admire women who try and try for many years before they go for the big guns, but that's just not my style. I wanted a family and it was a hard choice and a huge gamble. Even though the nurse at the hospital thought I was an egg donor and then told me I was too young to be doing IVF, it didn't get me down!
I know that because I am open about this I invite annoying comments, so I don't take them to heart. Lots of people tell me that if they were in my shoes, they would NEVER do IVF. Some people just say that and some give me reasons. I don't need their explanations because I didn't ask anyone to do IVF. Yes, I am a 26 year old who looks a little more on the late teen, maybe 21 year old side and yes, I am pregnant, yes, I am married, and yes, I am pregnant because of IVF!! This doesn't bother me to explain and I'm not ashamed of it. But I had my own "really??" moment . . .
Someone asked if our children would know about this. I guess they will because we have photos of them, photos that I cherish, as embryos. Most babies don't have that in their baby book. I think it's cool, but never took into consideration that it might affect people. I could understand people judging me, but I never thought that anyone would judge my children.
I'm not going to hide this from my kids and it's something that will cross people's minds forever because they are twins, but I will have to think about how this will be delivered to them now. I'm not going to spend too much time worrying about it because it will be years before they even think to ask that. One thing I know for sure is that if anyone treats my beautiful, perfect, cherished petri babies any differently than a "normal kid" (what is a normal kid anyway?) they will experience a wrath from this bitch they have never experienced in their lifetime!