I really, REALLY want an Arms Reach Co-sleeper for next to the bed. Although I'm being strict with the budget now that I'm not working, I am very tempted to buy one. I saw it on another person's blog and thought immediately "I want that!"
Beyond budget, there is one other issue in my way. Hubby. He does not want us to do that. He has been a good daddy and has listened to quite a few parenting podcasts. He does have the upper hand because I didn't even make it through "What to Expect When You're Expecting." He feels it would be best for them to start out in their beds (well bed, they will share for awhile) because then there will be no transition to beds later. This does make sense. When we took our Marvelous Multiple birthing class, the guest speaker with two year old twins swore by putting your babies to bed in their own cribs while even still a little bit awake so they learn to self soothe. That makes sense also.
But . . . . it would be nice for the time that they are eating every 3+ hours to have them at "arms reach." If it turns out that I am not good at breastfeeding then it won't matter because I will have to go downstairs to make a bottle anyway. Even if I pump, that will have to happen so no matter what I'll be getting up. Also, I think for awhile I will be a little scared of them being in their own room away from me. Other than their five days in the petri dish, they have always been with me. I'm not sure I will be able to just put them in another room! My mom and I are taking a road trip so out of state family can meet the monkey's and it might be a nice thing to have. Although, I've never seen this in real life so would it fit both the monkeys?
I also don't know if I can just put the babies in their bed. I love bedtime! With my 18 month old foster baby when it was bedtime there is a twin bed in his room so hubby or myself would lay down with him for awhile (maybe half an hour). We would just lay and snuggle until I could hear his little snore in my ear. It was very sweet and he always smelled wonderful after bathtime and in his fresh jammies. I am looking forward to that with Ocean and Ever.
I can't make a decision! I'm itchin' to get my hands on it, but I want hubby to be on board and I don't really know if it's necessary. What do you think, did your munchkin(s) sleep next to you for awhile? What a dilemma!
*On a side note*- For my post yesterday, I did not consider that perhaps the screaming/mom hitting child could possibly have a disorder that would cause them to behave that way. So I apologize if you do have a child who has that experience and outings are tough for you. I will probably consider that from now on, so thank you (you know who you are) for sharing your experience! I did learn something from that. On another note, if you just don't like my harshness, or the fact that things irritate me and I write about them (I did after all put the word judgemental in the title), this probably isn't the reading material for you. There are many times that I read others blogs and mostly like them, but occasionally consider some posts to be odd, ridiculous, and sometimes just plain crazy. But I understand that people are entitled to be odd, ridiculous and crazy, so I don't worry about it. If you are really worried about it and need to tell me, go ahead, but your best odds are just to count to 10, hit the X button on the top of the screen, and read about daisies and rainbows somewhere else.