Thursday, July 7, 2011

10 Things Not To Say To Working or SAHMs

I stumbled upon these in Redbook and thought they were interesting. I had many thoughts while reading these (my super awesome thoughts are bold).

10 Things Never to Say to a Working Mom (according to

1. It must be hard missing all those special moments everyday. - While rude, this doesn't bother me. In my mind, all the special moments happen when mommy is around.

2. I suppose it's smart that you're working. You know, in case your husband leaves you some day. - This may sound odd, but thatis actually one thing that I put on the positives list on being a working mom. I'm sick like that.

3. I'm surprised you went back to work. Your husband seems so successful. - Who would say that? Successful husbands aren't a bad thing either.

4. It's cute when they call your nanny "Mama." - I wish I could afford a nanny! Take that one as a compliment.

5. I just love my kids too much to leave them during the day. - Only a serious bitch would say this to someone. If your friends says this to you, she's not your friend. RUDE!!

6. Did you see Dateline? The one with the hidden camera in the day care? -Did you see the Casey Anthony trial? Not all moms should be left alone with their children either.

7. I could never let someone else raise my children. But that's just me! -Taking care of someone's children and raising them are different things in my opinion. Mark this in the seriously rude bitch category.

8. I hated my mom because she was never home after school like everyone else's mom. - Therapy is very necessary for the person who says this

9. You must feel so guilty. - I do feel guilty. It's just the truth.

10. I wish I were as laid-back as you and could just let the housework go. -I wish I could blame being a working mom on my shitty housework habits but they've always been there. I don't understand how this is that bad. Anyone with eyes can tell that I "let the housework go."

10 Things Never to Say to A Stay-at-home Mom (according to

1. When the kids are older, do you think you'll get a real job? -Throwing in the word "real" is super under the table rude, but I have to admit I kind of think that's a legit question out of curiousity.

2. How June Cleaver of you! - How did this make #2? If this really offends someone it's time for the big girl panties.

3. Oh, so you don't work? -I'm guilty of this one too. When I ask someone if they work, I mean are they employed. I'm not saying taking care of kids isn't hard or isn't work in the literal sense, but being an SAHM is not being employed and I think that's what people mean by that.

4. Since you have extra time on your hands, could you whip up a few dozen brownies for the bake sale tomorrow? - This goes in the rude bitch category. If someone says this to you as a stay at home mom, don't take it girl!

5. All day with your kids? I can't even imagine. - I'm going to defend this one too and think it's the not so tactful way of saying that people think you have a hard job as a stay at home mom.

6. I'm jealous. I wish my husband were rich so I wouldn't have to work either. - I have DEFINITELY told stay at home mom's I'm jealous of them. I've never said the rich part but I have thought it. Not to be rude, but due to simple math. If one person can afford a mortgage, gas, car insurance, utilities, food, health insurance, clothing, doctor's visits, extracurricular activities, clothes, etc all by themselves they make bank. Or they don't have student loans, which is kind of equal to being rich. If they do have student loans and can still afford this, CHA-CHING!!

7. What do you do all day, anyway? - Only a person who has no kids, whether they stay at home or work, would say this. I seriously don't know how a mom could say this to another mom.

8. I'm sure you're not the only one who's ever wasted money on a college degree. -Rude! I don't understand the logic behind this. So, if a woman plans on being a mom ever they shouldn't go to college? Weird. I don't get it.

9. That explains why your son is so clingy! -This is a complete urban legend. My kids are super clingy when I get home every night and they don't stay at home. I think as parents we really want to believe that our choices are what makes our children, but I think a good percentage of how a kid turns out is the kid.

10. Weird. I assumed your house would be super clean. - My response would be the same as #10 above. My house ain't clean now, and it wouldn't be if I were at home all day! Kids are so messy!

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My angel baby wearing handcuffs. He looks so adorable and he loved playing with them! I will say a little prayer tonight that this will be the only time I see him in handcuffs, for realz!!


  1. I totally agree with your comments. Oh, and your son is too cute.

  2. Um, I love all of these! I wish all women could just respect what the other does, both are equally hard and some days when I'm at work, I wish I was home and when I'm at home sometimes I think it would be "easier" at work.

  3. Great post & so true!! I have been both and there is NOTHING easy about being a Mom period. Your BOLD comments crack me up :)

  4. I've seen these lists before and totally agree with all of them! I wish it didn't have to be a "them and us" situation. We're all moms and we all feel guilty no matter WHAT we choose to do (or have to do).

  5. Um, where did the handcuffs come from?!? Wait -- maybe I don't want to know! LOL....

    I love your response to #6 on the working mom list. Friggin hysterical!!!

  6. I'm with Marie....where did those cuffs come from???? Were they will the undies that E had around her neck????

  7. Luckily, I have never really heard any of these directed to me. I think it is because I have twins and people are too busy asking dumb questions about them! LOL

    It is sad that people seem to want to foster such competition between Working Moms and SAHMs. Redbook oughta get a time-out for stirring up trouble between the Moms!

    If I do get to go back to work once my twins start kindergarten... I will be the person cheering on all Working Moms because I'll be caring for their kids while they worked. Job security for me! I think moms who work have many benefits besides the (obvious) financial ones. And their kids see that work ethic and learn valuable lessons from it.

  8. This is an awesome post...sometimes people really don't think before they speak. I wish people would learn to "live and let live" instead of being judgy!!! Hope you guys have a wonderful weekend:)

  9. and just where did the handcuffs come from? Just wonderin' ... ;)
    I DO feel really guilty that I'm working instead of snuggling with my baby. I think if someone said that to me I'd just cry.


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