tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3468195659754987090.post2434863806794379338..comments2023-06-21T04:13:52.390-05:00Comments on Artificially Fertile Myrtle: The Real DealAshleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15386294996031459690noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3468195659754987090.post-7940822604201189112011-03-25T08:30:38.362-05:002011-03-25T08:30:38.362-05:00I love this post. NOT that you are having problems...I love this post. NOT that you are having problems, but your honesty. I'm glad to read that the time you took to reconnect is working out. At least I know that when hubby and I are snapping at each other, we are just going through the same as others out there. It truly can take a toll on a relationship. <br /><br />Also, I think you look wonderful! Your vacation pics have me jealous: 1- because of the actual vacation and sleep and 2- your body :)Shannyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00905344569039384899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3468195659754987090.post-9682654214017248182011-03-24T06:29:25.242-05:002011-03-24T06:29:25.242-05:00I'm so glad that things have started to get be...I'm so glad that things have started to get better...and thanks for your honest post. I'm under no delusions that having a newborn is going to be easy, either in general or on our relationship. We definitely have had some tough times over the course of our marriage, so I know we'll get through it...but I also know, it probably won't be fun at the time. ;-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3468195659754987090.post-40609723286724327832011-03-23T13:54:23.218-05:002011-03-23T13:54:23.218-05:00I'm so sorry things are not the same as before...I'm so sorry things are not the same as before. As the kids grow, they will gain more independence and the parenting roles change somewhat. That helps Dads get more involved. Many men just don't jump in and feel comfortable with infants. I was lucky, mine just followed my lead. I had 15 years of baby experience in day care before the twins were born so he felt comfortable watching and copying me.<br /><br />We were also married for 10 years before the twins came. We dated for 11 years prior to getting married, too. We've been together almost as long as you have been alive! Our first date was in 1984!JILLnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3468195659754987090.post-63876844685629487372011-03-23T11:31:20.058-05:002011-03-23T11:31:20.058-05:00Thanks so much for the post and the honesty! I gu...Thanks so much for the post and the honesty! I guess I have been figuring that if we could survive infertility, we could definitely handle parenthood...but I'm pretty sure I'm being naive. DH has already made comments regarding sleep that concern me a bit. Thankfully we have a counseling appointment this evening and I will definitely be bringing these things up :). Thanks for your dose of reality! I needed it!christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16489232758689574628noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3468195659754987090.post-20434337647195880712011-03-22T19:11:40.368-05:002011-03-22T19:11:40.368-05:00I'm sorry to hear that things have been rough....I'm sorry to hear that things have been rough. Even though I don't have two babies I can understand what is going on. And honestly things have been a lot better for us by simply being able to sleep more so I know that is a huge factor. The other day when you wrote about the babies' sleep issues I hesitated to comment. I felt bad sticking my opinions in your face. But now that I've read this I think you would really benefit from doing some form of sleep training whether it is CIO or modified CIO or whatever. I totally get that you hate to hear your babies cry but after a few nights I really think it will benefit all of you. I have friends who didn't do it early and now their 3 or 4 year olds still sleep in their beds and then no one really gets very good sleep. I think you and your hubby will really benefit from getting decent sleep! Or even get someone to do CIO for you! My mom did it for her sister-in-law and she couldn't thank my mom enough! Good luck! I hope all four of you are sleeping better soon!!Jillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09704657308448450841noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3468195659754987090.post-45041451176777420872011-03-22T16:58:15.194-05:002011-03-22T16:58:15.194-05:00You are looking super cute by the way!You are looking super cute by the way!Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08341201834310837967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3468195659754987090.post-43677204214137703072011-03-22T16:54:46.747-05:002011-03-22T16:54:46.747-05:00I have honestly been thinking about and worrying a...I have honestly been thinking about and worrying about our relationship since we found out I was pregnant. I have a tendency to nag anyways when hubby isn't doing something the way I would and I know this is going to be an even bigger issues once baby is here. We'll be on edge, I'll be overprotective and never think he's doing it as well as I could. I am already working on it and trying to keep in mind that this is MY issue and I need to let things go.<br /><br />Thanks for this post! I'm sure I'll be seeking advice over the next year. Good for you guys for taking the time for yourselves.Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08341201834310837967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3468195659754987090.post-90180209104627463612011-03-22T16:19:50.480-05:002011-03-22T16:19:50.480-05:00thank you for this post. Hubs and I have talked ab...thank you for this post. Hubs and I have talked about how things are about to change, and it makes us both happy and sad. He and I are the best of buds, and our time together just being us will be different.<br /><br />My friend who is married with one child told me that you learn to love your spouse differently--not bad different--but differently.My Vegashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02232402432779260397noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3468195659754987090.post-76730645568363530042011-03-22T15:52:23.771-05:002011-03-22T15:52:23.771-05:00Been reading for a long time - I can't remembe...Been reading for a long time - I can't remember if I used to comment regularly or not. In any case, my twins are a couple months younger than yours, so I enjoy reading to see what's coming up in my life. I also tend to really identify with you and where you are in YOUR life. And I definitely identify with this. I think my husband does not feel there is anything wrong in our relationship, but he knows that I've had a lot of issues and a lot of emotional and hormonal mood swings. I feel like our marriage is as even-keeled as it is because I work really hard at it. I'm not sure he appreciates that. I know I could use a vacation, but recently we've done our best to give each other free days on the weekends to go ski or hang out with friends, and that has been a help.<br /><br />I'm really impressed that you guys were able to get away for so long and take that really precious time for yourselves, and I'm happy to read that it worked. I think I'd be terrified that it would backfire, and that we'd find ourselves alone together and realize we'd become different people. I wonder that a lot about us. You give me hope!sunflowerchildehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15209334933886664383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3468195659754987090.post-48314816633674959162011-03-22T14:56:49.616-05:002011-03-22T14:56:49.616-05:00Cute photos and kids! My husband and I have one al...Cute photos and kids! My husband and I have one alost three year old and another one on the way. Even with just one kid we have had are fair shares of ups and downs so I do not want to imagine what it could be like with twins. Just hang in there and hopefully it gets better.Christine Pettijohnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05879896656733796717noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3468195659754987090.post-43906444135416428932011-03-22T14:41:08.948-05:002011-03-22T14:41:08.948-05:00Bravo to you guys for working on it and realizing ...Bravo to you guys for working on it and realizing you needed the time! I hope everything works out well from here. I'm routing for you!Abbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00116395729277809599noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3468195659754987090.post-39456685222546353522011-03-22T14:26:28.551-05:002011-03-22T14:26:28.551-05:00My husband and I battle with the same issues. Ever...My husband and I battle with the same issues. Everyone told us that parents to twins had a high divorce rate, but we already had two kids before twins, how much diffrent can two more babies be...right? Wrong! We are so sleep deprived, and on edge. It is impossible for us to find someone willing and able to watch ALL of our kids right now, so we are I'm major need of a break!<br /><br />That being said, we have learned over our 12 years together, that if we can't be friends, and have fun together and be open with one another, we will never make it.<br /><br />But it is still really hard.<br /><br />I feel for you guys. I'm so sorry. Hugs.Cyndihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15239516892732396510noreply@blogger.com